Do you still care?

Remember the previous incident where i bumped into this elderly lady with the horrible domestic helpers?

I actually called to make a police report on that very night in hope the police can keep a look out when they make patrols. I was told to call them again if i see them.

I also roped in my aunt who stays in my opposite block to find out if she/her mum knows more about this elderly. Aunt updated me to say the elderly stays at her block, not sure which floor and she lives alone with the two domestic help. Also that the elderly can sometimes be a little noisy and that the two domestic help are of one kind. i asked my aunt to inform me if she actually sees the granny having visitors.

Today, at about 10 plus, i was sitting around the void deck with a friend who ended work late for some chats when suddenly he pointed out to me.. " is that the grandma? "

i looked up and saw the domestic help pushing the grandma and walking very fast away from me. I quickly stood up and gave chase. My guy friend followed along and we tried to ask them for the number of their employer. the two helpers appeared totally arrogant and refused so we told them we are going to make a police report. Even when we said that, they appeared totally nonchalent and deared us to do it. I made a quick call to the police again while following them into the lift.

i did try to briefly observe the elderly, she was conscious today and she did make some rumbling sound at some times but not exactly 'noisy'. we followed them till we reached their doorstep to take note of the unit number while on the line with the police and it is only at this point at the helper called her employer and allowed me to speak to the employer.

I told the police officer who informed me to call them back again after i am done speaking to the employer on the other phone.

The employer is the son of the elderly lady. He thanked me for informing him and said he appreciated the kindness etc and blah but he told me that these two helpers have been with him for many years and that it is hard for him to actually find helpers because he knows his mum's condition.. he said it is probably very stressful for them to take care of her which is why he hired two and that because it has been so many years, he pretty much trust them.

while we were talking, the main gate was open and the helpers just proceeded to pull down the pants of the old lady and transferred her to another wheelchair where there is a pail for the old lady to pee. they did it right at the living room so YES, both myself and my guy friend saw the whole naked bottom of the old lady. They did not even have the courtesy to protect the decency of the old lady which is so sad.

i felt rather disappointed at his response to be honest. while i am not there 24-7 to see the probable 'difficult' side of the old lady.. but seriously, the attitudes of these two helpers are really BAD. they appeared totally arrogant and to a certain extent rude like they know that no matter what, no one will fault or scold them. also, how difficult is it to take care of an old lady who is wheelchair bound who doesnt even have strength to move by herself. Yes, maybe (i'm presuming) she makes noise or can be really really noisy but what can a wheelchair bound old lady do? I don't think she can even scold? all they need to do is probably just make sure she gets her 3 meals, clean n bath her and probably keep the house clean (WITH NO SUPERVISION). they have a whole house to themselves! what stress is there? You do wrong also no one will know!

i try to emphatise, maybe this son has been through quite a bit as well.. im not saying he is right or wrong. i understand people may give up. Not saying it is right as well but just trying to understand and wonder if it is actually painful or how painful it may or may not be for him as well.

I told him i may not understand and i am in no position to judge him because i may not have been through what he went through but i hope he can do something for his mum. and being difficult to take care of doesnt warrant her being subjected to any form of potential abuse.

after we got off the line, i took down his mobile number and called the police back to just make a record.

At this moment, i really can't think of much i can do anymore. my friend left for home while i proceeded to update my parents. My dad feels as strongly as i did but concluded that her kids have probably given up on her which is just a very sad thought.

I'm not the finest child around. i am guilty of always procrastinating when my parents request for help on IT stuff but i dont think i can ever bring myself to allow my parents to any kind of abuse from anyone.




it's just sad.